Personality

The Origin of our Personality (Ego) - Illusion - False Self

Developmental psychology tells us that, at birth, infants believe that they and their mother's are one. It is only between the ages of 5-12 months that children realize they are separate from their mother. This realization comes as a huge shock to the Nervous System and causes the child to experience a wound. Quantum Life Changes tells us that, at the moment of that shock, there begins the development of an illusion or a False Self.

What the child concludes about her/himself and the situation when she/he realizes that they are separate from Mom and what the environment teaches them is; "It’s not okay to be me, I am not good enough, I must be perfect." This is further supported by the story tellers around them. These scripts become the False Self.

The rest of the person's life is spent acting it out; attempting to prove that the illusions or False Self are not true. How the infant compensates for the illusions become what we call in NLP – Drivers. These drivers soul purpose is to survive and compensate by resisting, overcoming, healing, spiritualizing, transforming, justify, denying, etc.

Don Ruiz author of “The Voice of Knowledge” states:

“As little children, we are completely authentic. We never pretend to be what we are not. Our tendency is to play and explore, to live in the moment, to enjoy life. Nobody teaches us to be that way; we are born that way. This is our true nature before we learn to speak.

When the human mind is mature enough for abstract concepts, we learn to quantify everything; right or wrong, good or bad, beautiful or ugly. We create a story about what we should be, we put our faith in the story, and the story becomes the truth for us.

Behind all of the messages that we hear as children are the silent messages that are never said, but that we can understand: It is not okay to be me. I am not good enough. The moment we agree, we stop being ourselves and start pretending to be what we are not, just to please other people, just to fit an image they create for us according to their story,

Humans are born in truth, but we grow up believing in lies. One of the biggest lies in the story of humanity is the lie of our imperfection – Without awareness, we give our personal power to the story, and the story writes itself. With awareness, we recover the control of our story. We see that we are the authors, and if we don’t like our story, we change it.”

Your False Self (lies) acts as a lens with which "you" view the yourself, the world, and how you imagine the world views you. Once that happens, the False Self of "I am worthless" or "I am inadequate," for example, will interpret every situation through that lens. Each of us play the compensation game of life until we experience so much pain, and (hopefully) we then say "There’s got to be more, something must change, I must change, I will change." This can lead to a path of awareness; to know who we really are. Until the process of discovery and major changes occur, we live the life of lies, illusions and the False Self.

Dr. Stephen Wolinsky, in his book "Quantum Consciousness", shows how these games of life are played and the compensation we make to survive, in the following examples;

►"I am imperfect, there must be something wrong with me - Prove there is not something wrong with me by being perfect
► I am worthless, or have no value - prove I am not worthless by proving I am worthy or that I have value
► I am not able to do - proving I can do anything by achieving and over-doing
► I am inadequate - Proving I am not inadequate, by proving adequacy
► I am non-existent, I do not exist - Prove existence
► I am alone - Trying to connect
► I am incomplete - I must be complete or be whole through experiences
► I am powerless - I must prove how powerful l am
► I am loveless - Prove I am not loveless by being extra-lovable and loving"

The first principle of Quantum Life Changes™ states: “The (Spirit – Self) is the true identity of a human person and is different from the personality. Our Self is a power center of unlimited magnificence, supreme intelligence that is not separate from our source or God.  We are part of it all, we are it; and our purpose is to “know the self” by knowing the unknown.”

Dr Wayne Dyer states;

“If there’s an omnipresent power of intention that’s not only within me, but in everything and everyone, then we’re connected by this all-pervading Source to everything and everyone, and to what we’d like to be, what we’d like to have, what we want to achieve, and to everything in the universe that will assist us.

All that’s required is realigning ourselves and activating intention. But how did we get disconnected in the first place? How did we lose our natural ability to connect? By allowing ego to determine your life path, you deactivate the power of intention. Briefly;

► I’m what I have - My possessions define me
► I’m what I do - My achievements define me
► I’m what others think of me - My reputation defines me
► I’m separate from everyone - My body defines me as alone
► I’m separate from all that is missing in my life - My life space' is disconnected from my desires
► I’m separate from God - My life depends on God’s assessment of my worthiness"

The eighth principle of Quantum Life Changes™ states: “In order to let go of something, we must first know what it is. Once we are aware of our true “Self”, we will see that all problems are illusions, and our past realities were created by us.  With that awareness we can, through volition, access those illusions or old realities and dissolve the false parts of our personality as we change and create future realities. Change does not occur until we dissolve and re-label (re-program) old realities that are false.”

Quantum Life Changes™ has the information, knowledge, practices, principles and skills that facilitate a person to become aware of who they are and the illusions in their personality. Furthermore, we provide the skills to dissolve the false parts, allowing freedom of choice and change by accessing the quantum field or the source of all power to create the realities a person wants. See Quantum Life Changes™ Model.

 

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