The Quantum Message

Valentine's Day - 2009 -  by Cardell and Linn Smith

The Science of Love

Learning to experience love in the NOW

During this special season, we’d like to share with you some ideas about how to experience love in the NOW. In approaching the Science of Love, our focus will be upon what love is and what it is not. We must first understand these facets of love in order to experience it in our lives on a daily basis.

What Love is Not

Most people find that special someone and think that the rest of their lives they will automatically feel the same way about them, without having to work at it. Or they believe that the other person will change to accommodate their wishes. Until a person becomes aware and conscious, all relationships ultimately become dysfunctional. They may seem perfect for a while but invariably that apparent perfection becomes disrupted with arguments, conflicts or dissatisfaction. Emotional pain occurs frequently.

True love has no opposite. If your love has duality or opposites, then it is not love but likely a strong ego addiction for a more complete and deeper sense of self, which manifests as a need for other people to meet your expectations. This causes behavior such as seeking approval, caretaking, needing to be in control, feeling low self-esteem, having frozen feelings, feeling isolated, judging others, making others wrong, accusing, etc., etc.

These behavioral responses result in feelings of fear, sadness, guilt, anger, rejection, resentment, insecurity, inadequacy, and more. The results are people pleasing, ignoring our own needs, fearing criticism, trust issues, worry excessively, feeling disconnected, spiritual confusion, etc. As we live these scripts by attempting to experience love, happiness, and peace from outside ourselves based upon the actions of others, we experience a disconnection from who we really are, Inner-Being which is pure love. All unwanted feelings and experiences are born of rejected love.

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it. As you reject love, you become addicted to ego, false self and mind. You become addicted to thinking, feeling and living the old story of the past and future which robs you of the incredible NOW. You never experience the present or connection with Inner-Being which is that state of pure love.

When you look at other people and their lives, and judge them as being good or bad, positive or negative, or condemn their thinking and actions you create those thoughts and perceptions into your own reality. Whatever or whoever you judge, you will become. Those thoughts create an emotion within you and a feeling which is realized in every cell in your body. When you judge, you victimize yourself because you, not they, experience the effects of your judgments. When you condemn another for something, you are only condemning aspects of yourself seen within them. That is why those qualities in another are so easy for you to identify. That is why your attention is drawn to those aspects.

However, when you look upon others and see their endless possibilities of goodness, even if they are being cruel or hateful to another, then you recognize that as a truth and how they are expressing themselves in that moment. When you see their endless possibilities of goodness, you are not compelled to say they are bad or wrong or evil in that expression, because you understand that it would be a judgment, which is internalized and becomes your experience and your way of thinking and feeling.

So what does all of this mean? When you expect others to change to make you feel better, it is your altered ego at work. When you expect others to do as you do, think as you think and behave how you believe they should, you are trying to control the actions of others so that you can feel better to fill a void inside of you. It is always about you. It is your choice how you feel. When your happiness is dependant upon the actions of others, you will find yourself constantly trying to control circumstances so that you can be okay.


What Love Is

The searching question of humanity is what is my purpose? Who am I? We suggest there is no greater purpose in life than to live for the love and fulfillment of self. When you love and realize who you are, there is nothing that you cannot conquer, anything is possible, as you are the very source energy, the creative power and energy of all there is, which is LOVE. As you move in to that state of mind, and begin the process of guiding and directing your thoughts and emotions, you experience that divine knowing that “I can create how I want to feel and manifest anything I desire.”

Unconditional love is loving you, who you are, and what you are. It is realizing your past has been a magnificent school and learning, allowing and encouraging you to connect with who you really are, your higher self, Source Energy and Inner Being. As you experience this connection, it is transformational and facilitates the allowing of the ultimate source of love. You move into a magnetic vibration that allows you to see the magnificence and goodness in people, places, things, times, experiences and events. You move into the exciting process of guiding and directing your thoughts and feelings. Through this application in the NOW you will experience a knowing of your own divinity and become a master at manifesting and creating your desires and dreams

You will begin to live in a everlasting NOW, feeling connected, well-being, peace, joy, and abundance, which is the essence of unconditional love, love of self. Only then will you have the power to love all others and all of life.

So what does all of this mean? The phrase, ‘You cannot truly love another until you love yourself’ are not empty words. It is a basic truth. Love comes from within and reflects outward into the hearts and minds of those around you. It magnetizes those into your life who experience the same. That is universal law.

And so, my friends, at this special holiday, Valentine’s Day, no greater words were ever coined than from the song, The Greatest Love, “Learning to love yourself, it is the greatest love of all.”

Bless you and may you experience this amazing Love of Self. When you do, you will be amazed at the love you experience all around you.
 

Love Always, Cardell and Linn Smith